When should parents give their teens the right to take their own decisions?
Children are such that they always think themselves to be grown ups, at whatever age they might be. And for their parents they will always remain children how much ever old they grow. Some children are extremely rebellious, while others believe in letting go.
When teens become 18 they think themselves to be adults, matured people and they also expect their parents to give them the remote control of their life. Though at times they are not matured enough to handle a particular situation and land up in hot water.
I believe the right time to give teens their remote control depends from situation to situation. Some children are emotional and some are practical. The one who are emotional sometimes commit huge blunders just because they give importance to heart. There are times when they need to think, they need to be selfish, they need to have self- respect but they sacrifice just because they are too emotional. And on the other side those who are practical think a lot. In the process of thinking they loose opportunities, relationships and eventually themselves too. In the long run emotional and practical people don’t survive. There needs to be a balance between both. When parents feel their children have this balance, they should let them make their own decisions.
Sometimes even the parents need to recheck their point of views. Very strict and firm parents are also dangerous for the children. Such parents force their children to become rebellious. When parents don’t give them the right and doesn’t even understand kids become irritable. Like if a teenager wants to go for a party or a movie with friends they should look into the situation, the expectations and then take the decision. A direct ‘NO’ might have a wrong impact on the child’s mind.
Moreover, this debate of ‘decision-making thing’ ends easily if parents and children both come at a win-win situation. When the parents start giving certain rights, kids feel they are trusted and loved. This trust and love brings in them a sense of responsibility. Children feel their decisions are appreciated and so they should be careful in everything they do. They stop being rebellious and this makes them take the right decision.
This scenario often occurs during a child’s marriage. He/she wants to marry someone and the parents are against it. There are things which are not in our control, but nature controls it. Parents should understand their kids and let them take their own decisions. At last the only thing both parents and children need to do is understand each other and that parents give right to kids to make their own decision when they have a balance between emotionality and practicality.
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